Valentine Thoughts
'Every moment spent with you . . .'
WHAT happens if one day you are caught cheating on your Valentine; what happens even if the heart is broken into a thousand pieces? Does it really matter? After a bomb blast, trees are uprooted; buildings blown sky high; and sounds of window panes breaking are heard from afar. But have you ever heard a heart break? Buildings are reconstructed with improved looks; trees are replanted with imported saplings; but what happens to the broken heart? The crevice never heals! Let me tell you a story. A madly in love couple do not find a place to converse in private amidst the busy city life. The man proposes that they spend a day at a resort. The woman naturally declines the absurd offer. But, as both their families have agreed to their marriage, so after much convincing and cajoling she gives in. That very day there is a raid at the resort to round up the prostitutes. In the process our heroine also gets caught, with journalists clicking away as usual. Ironically all the men wait outside watching the game. The girls are all sent off to jail except this woman who succeeds in proving that the man is indeed her fiancé. Her mother reprimands her but her genuine tears convince the mother that she has not done anything wrong. Her mother-in-law had spoken to her on the phone only, so she could not identify her on the news. But the rest of the neighborhood makes it difficult for her to survive. When she asks her fiancé to marry her, he declines saying that it was impossible on his part, as he was working for a multinational company. His job would be at stake. In addition, his mother would never accept her. Dumped, heart-broken and jobless, she turns into a prostitute. He must have had a second choice or else how could he have dumped her? And, yes indeed, soon she finds out that he marries his boss' daughter. The end is quite corny but it actually happens in real life. Don't you ever cheat on your love! You could not even fathom how much it hurts to find out that the person who had promised to lay the stars at your feet has found a new interest in someone else! What is true love? It is giving away most of your bed while you hang off the edge. Love tries stealthily to locate the heart, making a space within, at the same time stealing your rest and peace of mind. Little did St.Valentine know that his chit, 'I love you', would become the lifeline for millions around the world. From card vendors to CD sellers, business is at its peak at the approach of Valentine's Day. Shy ones take the help of audio CDs to say koto bar bhebe chhinu apona bhulia, tomaro chorone dibo ridoyo tulia or mora ar jonome hongsho mithun chhilam. But then, not everyone can express his love in the fashion of Tagore or Nazrul. The brave ones, on the other hand, straight away confess their love. Diney diney mullo biney, sheje amay nilo kiney . . . In a world where it costs even to breathe, it is definitely a welcome note. Valentines die a thousand deaths everyday without any rhyme or reason. Sometimes even a glance at someone else can be a cause of distrust and jealousy, this possessiveness is self-destructive! It is this silly love which makes you want the 'whole' of the most important person in your life. If there is depth in your love you might be able to forgive, even if you catch the person red handed cheating on your love, and your amour-propre cries out emon ekta prem jodi petam, je prem kobhu na hoto shesh, shudhu obhiman ar onuragey roye jeto shey premer resh. Your new trust gives meaning to a pointless world and you start loving life all over again, never realizing that your love was always there enfolded in your bosom. This love overpowers you and your Valentine becomes for you your reality as well as your dream; your thirst, at the same time your aqueous; your restlessness and also your peace of mind. You find your cri de coeur baseless as the person was always there to draw you in the arms to bring you near. Here is a line for one who cries chaina banchte ami premhin hajar bochhor. I would try to boost your morale by insisting that you have nothing to lose. Love yourself and accept it as a fait accompli. Enjoy life and remember there is no need to despair, just try to remember the eternal call, jodi tor daak shuney keu na ashe tobe ekla cholo re. There is peace in that attitude too! Instead of some imaginary 'security of love', trust me, it is better to remain on one's own. Make it a verboten acreage for you, adapt a placid attitude towards life, don't loathe it and it will dish out peace which often lovers long for after bickering. Don't you ever yearn, long or pine for Valentines for sometimes if it's not the right one you might regret all your life. Kuch log rooth kar bhi lagte hain kitne pyaare! For those who believe in this idea, I would suggest they sing nijhoom raatey prodeep jelechhi tarar, bondhu tumi eshogo kachhe amar. If still you think you are not expressive enough then go ahead and tell your Valentine ami eto je tomaye bhalobeshechhi tobu mone hoy e jeno go kichhu noy keno aro bhalobeshe jete parena hridoy. Let the person know that the destination of all your dreams and aspirations is one. Now croon along with Aerosmith, 'I can stay awake just to hear you breathing, I can spend my life in the sweet surrender, I can stay lost in this moment forever coz every moment spent with you is the moment I treasure.' To round it up, there are a few tips for fresh Valentines. Rejoice, unite, make sacrifices for the ones you love. We all have to value these qualities as Allah has bequeathed them to us. On this occasion, forgive all wrongs, make amends, love the unloved and tell our loved ones once again how much we love them, not by saying 'I love you' but in the language of song: tumi srabone-o asho jodi khoti nei, ami phaagun ke rakhbo dhorey. You walk along the sidewalk not wanting the dawn to break the romance of the night humming lagja galey ke phir ye haseen raat ho na ho shayed phir is janam mein mulakaat ho na ho….
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